Q: Can You Ask If You May Bring A Date To The Wedding? Your Kids?

A. It is not appropriate to ask the couple or the hosts to let you bring extra people, even your children. If the exclusion of your kids creates such an inconvenience that you can not attend without them, simply send your regrets, saying that family matters prevents you from being able to attend. If you have unique circumstances that your hosts may not be aware of -- such as a child that is nursing, or a recent engagement -- you can politely inform the couple and see if they offer to make an exception.